Wednesday, 21 February 2018

let's take self-care seriously


 
"Life is meant to be enjoyed"
Yes, it's a buzz word.

Yes, it's something trendy.

But nevertheless, it should be something that we embed in our routines. It is something that should slot in, just like brushing your teeth would.

Self-care isn't putting on a face mask or having a bubble bath (although both of said options are pretty nice to include too) but it boils down to the bare minimum. Brushing your hair or washing your clothes or you know, actually showering and moisturising your skin. It's so easy to get 'busy' and then forget to do these things until your hair is a matted mess, you have to scavenge for a pair of socks that aren't filthy and your skin is dry and you faintly smell of BO and think, is this what I've smelt like this whole week?

I completely understand the romanticisation of looking after your mind and body, it's something that hasn't been pushed on before and now, with the rising popularity of such posts and videos on social media platforms, it's something that is genuinely appealing. I've succumbed to it many times before. Voluminous bubbles almost spilling out of the bath tub, thick, luxurious face-masks that are overwhelmingly therapeutic to slather and a warm mug of your favourite hot beverage. It's the epitomised idea of self-care that we want to think we have adopted.

Because, let's face it, showing your self-care routine as something that involves trying not to have multiple depression naps or being forced to put on face cream because the salt from your endless tears has dried out your skin and left it feeling uncomfortably tight doesn't have the same appeal to it. We want our self care routine to be seen as supplementary, not necessary. But that's not the reality.

I wish I could say I have a solid routine, one that I turn to when I'm experiencing an exponential decay (ha!) but I'll be honest, when I'm depressed all I can do is cry and cry and cry and write shitty things to try and understand why this is happening to me. However, I have photographed a few material things that instil some happiness in me at times when I feel like everything is deteriorating for me.

I have some hyaluronic acid from the ordinary and the glossier priming moisturiser; both of which make me feel somewhat human after a rough time. It's crazy what a moisturised face can do for you. Hyaluronic acid is a natural occurring polysaccharide humectant which retains I think 100 times it's weight with water. The priming moisturiser is a very recent purchase which I've started using lately, it's very moisturising and eliminates any dryness. I like to use this mostly because of its priming qualities as I'll usually use a lot of colour corrector and concealer to cover up my dark circles.

There's also a kiko nail varnish which is my favourite shade to wear. Admittedly, I never paint my nails- despite it being quite easy for me considering I'm somewhat ambidextrous* This dark red colour is a classic, is so glossy and fairly long lasting and compliments my skin tone, hence why it's a firm favourite of mine. As stereotypical as it may sound, a manicure can actually work wonders in terms of making you feel less like a slob, I would know lol.

And finally is this pad of note/letter writing paper that I got on sale from kikki.k, a veerrryyy cute but overpriced stationary shop in Covent Garden. Not only do some of the sheets have affirmative quotes, the designs, prints and colour are also things that brighten my day. I use this to write my letters to my pen-pal and I think aside from the paper itself, writing the letters is also something that makes me feel a little less anxious. It's a way to write down everything that has been happening in my life and how I've been feeling and hypothetically 'free up space' in mind so that I'm not constantly thinking of (and subsequently overthinking) everything.

So there we go. A rant and 'things I love' post all rolled into one! Make sure you take care of yourselves.

How would you define self-care? 
Dalal

*I was left handed for most of my nursery years but there's a strange old wives tail in north africa, probably brought over by the french which claims that witches greet satan “avec le bras gauche” (with the left hand) so my mum basically forced me to swap hands in the fear of witchcraft. Sounds even stranger now that I've typed that out. 

10 comments:

  1. Haha, i gotta admit i LOVE the entire hype about self care. I feel like as I've gotten older, it just comes to me more reflexively and naturally than when I was younger and would just do benders or go on crazy nights out with friends. There's nothing more heavenly to me than having a shower, doing a face mask and then hopping into bed with some netflix after a long day ( is this even self care? LOL )

    xx

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    1. I do too! I definitely get that, I'm often on the bus just hoping it could zoom so I can get home and do nothing. I guess it's all about balance, you can still go on 4 day benders haha and have a firm understanding of self-care. Thanks for the comment Yalei, I hope you're doing well!

      Dalal <3

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  2. amazing, amazing post. I especially resonated with "We want our self care routine to be seen as supplementary, not necessary." - because it's SO TRUE. I mean, the romanticised 'hype' around self-care can be quite uplifting to some people, and I appreciate that it's become accessible in a cheesy way, especially because it will be hitting younger eyes. When I was younger (idk like from 11-14) I don't even think I used the word 'self-care'. I was just indulged in the world of Tumblr where I'd just reblog gorgeous pictures of places I wish I could go, food I wanted to eat, clothes I wish I had and girls I wish I could be. I couldn't even comprehend the idea of taking care of myself in the way that it is represented in social media today. Weird. BUT yes, when it becomes too commercialised and capitalised, it's just gross. Nah b, I don't think I need to buy 5 of these brand products in order to feel good, sometimes wrapping yourself in a blanket when you realise it's cold and drinking some tea does the trick? The more we succumb to the idea that self-care is something material and product-based, the more it loses it's essential quality as a natural HEALTHY LIFESTYLE.

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    1. Thank you so much Zoe, it's means a lot coming from you. It is indeed a massive thing that we see because to be frank it's embarrassing to show what the foundations of your self-care routine if it's not filled with Glossier and Lush. Omg tumblr was my life around those ages and it was so so bad because I actually started going to the gym so I can look like some of the girls- like it's good I started working out but the motives behind it were so TWISTED and I'm so glad that there has been a massive self-love and acceptance movement lately so other young girls don't follow what I or yourself did. okay your last sentence all I can say is EXACTLY !!!! Thanks for the comment, I always enjoy replying to them because it's like a mini conversation- hope everything is good with you

      Dalal <3

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  3. I've never been one for the hype of bubble baths and face masks for self care since they were things that I did any way so didn't seem like self-care much since I was still rather stressed and down even after them. I feel like self-care for me is just taking a moment to take a break and de-clutter my mind, even if I just lay down for a short while. Or maybe after all of this I'm already ticking off the self-care box I'm just too stressed for even that to work ^^

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    1. Taking a break to declutter is definitely a form of self-care! Just make sure to take care of yourself, that's the most important. Hope everything is going well <3

      Dalal

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  4. Loved this post! Was going to say I adored the line about things being perceived as supplentary as opposed to necessary but have just spotted Zoe saying the exact same thing above! I think you've just captured perfectly how self care has become distorted in the media and by brands as just this concept that can be moulded to them as something trendy to help sell products. It's only recently that I've begun to realise how fundamental self care is, and the fact that it's seen as something supplemenatry in some ways makes it hit home how little we care for ourselves. Something so necessary has become a fashionable buzz word!
    Have just discovered your blog and really love the way you write, it feels so real!
    Imogen xxx
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    1. Thank you so much Imogen! It is very true- I guess everything is being capitalised on nowadays though haha. Yeah, it definitely shows how little love we have for ourselves if we think having a self-care routine is something revolutionary. Ah, I'm glad you like my blog and i hope you stick around ;)

      Dalal <3

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  5. I loved this post Dalal, as I've gotten older I've begun to realise self care is a lot less luxurious than it is made out to be in popular forms of media. The things you said here are so true and you write them so well- ah just such a good post, really love it!x
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    1. Ah thanks Libby, it definitely isn't all that it's made out to be but it's still important regardless.

      Dalal <3

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